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A Fighter to The Very End

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A fighter to the very end.

These are the words that come to my mind when I think of my father, or papi as my siblings and I call him.

For five years my dad fought the arduous battle that so many before him, and after him, have fought. Three weeks ago our papi succumbed to the cancer he bravely faced each day for all of those years. It wasn’t because he didn’t have the will, it is simply that a body can only take so much.

Like the millions of people out there that have been through this, there are so many feelings and questions. Why did he get cancer, why did he have to suffer so much? It just wasn’t fair. Cancer stole so much from my father, and from all of his loved ones too. I refuse to let my father’s memory be overshadowed by his disease, my father was so much more than that.

Growing up my father and I were very close, and even though I have always fondly cherished those memories and lessons, they have taken a new meaning and an even bigger space in my heart and soul. These past three weeks I’ve come to a realisation of just how so many of my fondest and happiest memories involved him one way or another. I am truly thankful for that.

My father was reserved and somewhat shy if he didn’t know you, but he was the type of man, the type of person that you wanted in your corner. He was always there for us and always ready to offer a helping hand not only to his children and grandchildren, but to the extended family and friends. We all knew that my father was very liked by many people, but it has been really touching hearing stories of things my dad did for others, or how they even considered him their second father. I just hope that he too knew just how much he was loved by so many.

There are so many things I want to write and share with you so that you too can get to know the man I proudly called father, but my mind is still tying to make sense of it all, trying to accept the new order of things. A time will come when I’ll be able to better do so.

For now I wanted to explain the reason for my absence. My father’s death has helped me reflect on my life and happiness, there are some things for me to ponder and in due time I will share these thoughts, ideas, and plans with you.

I’ll be back very soon.
 

NeverForgotten
 

Comments

  1. My heart goes out to you. Your father sounds like a wonderful man who reached out to many with love.

    His memory and voice will be with you always.

    I will keep you in my prayers.

  3. I’m so sorry for your loss, healing prayers to you and your family. May your Father rest in peace.

  5. So wonderful to hear your words and my heart aches reading your story. What a precious relationship you will always have of your life with a wonderful father. I didn’t have have a father in my life growing up but my kids have my wonderful husband and father. Thanks for sharing your experience with us.

    • Thank you so much Sarah I appreciate your kind words. I’m so happy that your children do have a wonderful father and you a wonderful husband. Hugs!

  7. So very sorry for your loss, Nancy. My heart goes out to you. Take the time you need to heal. We’ll be here when you’re back.

  8. Oh Nancy, I’m so sorry to read about your dad. It sounds like y’all were very close and loved each other very much. Yours words are beautiful! Lots and lots of hugs!

  10. I’m so sorry to hear this news, Nancy. I lost my father earlier this year and it’s tough. Thinking of you, my friend. xoxo

    • Liz, I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ve been so out of touch with everyone that I didn’t know. We understand exactly the pain that comes with this kind of loss. Thank you so much my friend and am also thinking of you. xoxo

  11. I am so sorry for your loss Nancy. I wish we didn’t even know the word cancer, it’s not fair. Wishing that you cling to all the good memories he left with you. Hugs.
    -Gina-

    • Hi Gina,

      Thank you so much sweetie. Me too, it’s such a horrible word and hopefully one day we’ll live in a world without it. Sending you a big hug back.